What is the most precious word in someones vocabulary? Their name.
I know at least once in your life, after meeting someone you’ve said to yourself or a friend “wait what was his/her name again?”
A lot of us have trouble remembering names and we know it. It’s a weakness but the problem is we have just accepted that weakness as reality. I’ve heard so many people say “I am so bad at names.” The problem is when we say that aloud we are just confirming that it’s our reality.
I don’t believe it has to be. We aren’t born with the ability to remember names or not. I used to suck at remembering names. Now I am pretty darn good at it. I am proof that it doesnt have to be your reality.
Remembering names is a key to making someone feel like a million bucks. People, whether they know it or not, value their name above every other word. It is the most obvious thing that makes them unique and you are just going to brush it off as “well I am just not good at remembering names?” Say what!
I want to help you. There are two huge reasons why we don’t remember someones name.
- We don’t make it our #1 priority when meeting someone. It should be your #1 priority. To make sure you get their name right and remember it.
- When we meet someone we are way to concerned with how that person is perceiving us. We are actually thinking about ourselves in that moment as opposed to about the other person.
I describe this as not being confident in our authenticity. A truly confident person is one who doesn’t constantly need validation from others. Someone who is confident in their authentic self isn’t worried about what you think of them so when they meet you, they aren’t thinking about what you are thinking of them. They are thinking about YOU!
If you want to get good at remembering peoples names, 1st make it your number #1 priority in your conversation and 2nd stop thinking about what the other person is thinking, think about THEM!
Side trick. Repeat their name a few times when you meet them. Make sure you absolutely have it 100% correct.