I really have not written on the topic of getting the right people in your life before so I am going to today because of something that happened to me this past week. My mind was completely shifted and my perspective changed. On three separate occasions this past week I was challenged by someone for not doing what I am capable of doing. One was from a friend of eight years, another from a friend of just over a year, and another from someone I had met for the first time. All three of these people I respect for different reasons but nonetheless I respect them and they all told me the truth. They all told me in different ways that I am wasting my time, playing way to small, and not creating what I am capable of.
I wanted to say “dont you see all that I am doing! I am writing a book, growing a podcast, running a business, playing college soccer, going to class, and posting a weekly blog! How could I possibly be playing small?” I knew in the back of my head though that I had been tricking myself into believing that I was doing everything I was capable of when in reality I wasn’t. I knew I lacked self-belief to a level I wasn’t willing to admit. But these three people called me out on it and I had a choice. Do I make an excuse or do I listen and meet the demands of reality?
The truth and/or reality was I did lack the self-belief to do what I know I needed to do. The truth and/or reality was I am better than what I think I am and its time I step up my game. The truth and/or reality is I had been wasting so much time and that I needed to take my gifts and bring them to the world on a whole new level because I am capable.
So heres what I am here to tell you today. I am going to be for you what those three friends were for me. You are better than you think you are. You are capable of so much more than you are currently doing. You are allowing the fear of what people will think control you and you need to get your ass into gear. The same spirit that created this world is the same spirit that lives in you. You are powerful beyond what you can comprehend and understand. Its time you stop limiting yourself, and really get moving.
You need to get the right people in your life. The people that love you so much that they are going to tell you the truth. You need to get people in your life that are further along than you. These people will challenge you and force you to change your perspective on what you are capable of. If you haven’t moved forward in a while its probably a good sign you need to make some new friends that challenge you. I didn’t say kick the others out of your life, I said you need to make some new friends on top of the friends you have who challenge you. Maybe you do need to kick some out who are pulling you down. That very well could be the case.
However, most of the time its just we are comfortable and don’t want to make new friends that challenge us because we know will be inspired to do more and be more but we don’t want to admit that we aren’t doing that now. You’ve got ONE FREAKING LIFE TO LIVE. Quit wasting it.