Last Thursday my friend Dave and I found ourselves 6 rows up from the court of the ACC Basketball tournament. I was texting my little sister at that time and she said “How did you manage to get down there?” Our tickets were up in the nosebleeds so thats why she was asking. My response to her was “by being kind to people.” A theme for both Dave and I’s life is kindness and earlier in the night we were standing in line to go into a restaurant before the Duke game when we ran into a few other Duke fans. They were in their 50’s or 60’s. Dave and I struck up a conversation with them, asked them about themselves, where they were from, what they did for a living, etc. We were able to share in our nervousness for the game, hoping Duke would win. Dave and I asked where they were sitting and they said section 8, row 6. I told them, if Duke won, we would come down and give them a high five.
After Duke won, we snuck down into their section and found them. We of course gave them a high five, and had fun celebrating with each other for a minute about Dukes win. They immediately said, look we know these two people behind us and they left for the night, just sit here. So here Dave and I are sitting, 6 rows up from the court for the North Carolina vs Miami game. Now this might not seem like a big deal to you, but this was a huge deal for us. Ive never sat that close to a basketball game of that caliber. Neither Dave and I grew up wealthy and got to experience things like that. The next day the couple invited Dave and I out for drinks on them before the next game. Dave wasn’t going to the game and had other plans so I went but the point is we made a connection, a friendship through being kind.
Earlier on in the week Dave and I got really good tickets to a broadway show for about 50% off and also got a backstage tour after the show with some of the cast of Wicked. We got these tickets and this opportunity through a professor we both had in college who heard we were going to New York and wanted to see a show on Broadway. We both had developed a good relationship with this professor, so she immediately went to work to get us this opportunity. We didn’t even ask for it.
So many other cool things happened during this week in New York City and both Dave and I looked at each other multiple times with the look of “wow this is cool!” For me its the magic of being kind to people. Kindness goes a long way in the world. Stopping to say hi to someone because you believe that person is important can be powerful. Instead of just standing in line quiet, being open to talking to the person behind or in front of you can open up an opportunity you didn’t know existed. We didn’t know that the people in line behind us at the restaurant were sitting 6 rows up from the court. I didn’t know my professor would be able to get us great tickets and a backstage tour. But because we were kind and took an interest in others, these doors opened up for us.
People want people in their life who are kind. Who take the time to listen, to ask them questions, to be genuinely interested in them and their life. When you are authentic, genuine, and kind people are attracted to you. When you think about it, people have everything we want and need. They have love, friendship, opportunity, money, connections, etc. The truth is we all need each other. When you slow down, say hi, be kind, doors of opportunity can and will open up for you! I promise. The Magic of Kindness works, give it a try.