Why are people stuck? Why aren’t people chasing their dreams? Why don’t people ever take the next step? What I have discovered is that most people never chase after the life they want because they believe they need to have the absence of resistance before they start. Most people are waiting for fear to go away, for full confidence to arrive, and/or a perfect plan to be created. They believe that the resistance they immediately face when they figure out what they want needs to be resolved before they get started and that is just not true. Les Brown says that “Courage is not taking action in the absence of fear but rather taking action in spite of fear.” People actually have all this backward. We have been convinced in our lives that the situation needs to be perfect, that timing needs to be right, that our fear needs to be gone in order for us to create what we want but in reality all of those things start to be solved when you simply start moving forward. I say that the key to life is moving forward for this exact reason.
When I decided that I wanted to start my own private soccer training business and create income coaching soccer in the evening so that I could spend my mornings and early afternoons writing and creating content I was afraid, I was nervous, I wasn’t confident, I didn’t have a perfect plan (I actually didn’t have a plan) and I had a lot of opportunity for failure. I had all this resistance immediately when I decided thats what I wanted to do. If I waited till all of that subsided or was solved I would still be waiting. Instead what I did was take the next step, network. I called a few contacts that I felt could help me out. They gave me some numbers of people to call and I called them in spite of fear, having no idea what I was doing, lack of confidence, no plan, and within a week I had 4 or 5 coaching opportunities open up for me. Why? Because when you move forward, and you have the willingness to take action opportunities open up, the right people are put in your path and if you are willing to say yes in spite of resistance good things happen.
You don’t need to be fully confident. You don’t need to be fearless. You don’t need the perfect plan. You don’t need the right connections. What you need to do is simply take the next step in spite of the resistance you are feeling. You simple just need to move forward. As you continue to move forward life will bring you the things and opportunities you need and if you have the “moving forward” mindset you will say yes to those opportunities. Good things happen to those who act in spite of resistance.
-The Professional Encourager and Uplifter