Earl Nightingale said “You don’t get in life what you want, you get in life what you are.” We all want things. We all have desires. We all have dreams. But wanting is not enough, you have to become something first. I often say that the difference between where you are and where you want to be is adversity because adversity is what makes you better and its getting better that will get you to where you want to be. Choosing to get better is not just about overcoming adversity, its about constantly working on yourself. You need to be obsessed with self-development and growing yourself because if you don’t become better you wont have better, simple as that. If you are not constantly reading books that challenge your thinking in some way then you are doing it wrong. Most people think that they should stop reading when they get out of college, when in reality they need to double and maybe even triple down on their reading. Warren Buffet has read five hours a day for decades. Mark Cuban has been reading three hours a day since his early 20’s. Why? Because they know they need to improve themselves before they can improve the quality of their life.
I shut off the TV almost five years ago now. I don’t remember the last time I watched anything on TV other than a sporting event. Why? Because I figured if I could take that time to read or watch interviews on YouTube or go out in the marketplace to meet new people and challenge myself that would help accelerate my personal growth. I used to be afraid to talk to strangers, now I work to meet one new person a day. My first year out of college I read 40+ books on business, leadership, self-development, people skills, relational skills and it has made all the difference. Going to self-development conferences and communicating regularly with people who are further on in life, has greatly increased my self-development. If we are not obsessed with getting better, then I guarantee we will not have the life that we really want.
I talked to a 22 year old guy recently name Kyle that has been on a personal growth journey for the past six months or so. He has been reading tons of books, listening to uplifting messages, communicating with people that challenge his thought process, and putting himself in uncomfortable situations. His voice on the other end of the phone was one of excitement, joy, and confidence. He has grown to become more confident in himself, his gifts, talents, and abilities because he is focused and obsessed with becoming more. This is the kind of person that will have the courage to chase and ultimately achieve his dreams. I encourage everyone to decide today to become more like Kyle. To decide to pick up a self-improvement book, turn off the TV and spend that time challenging your way of thinking and/or your skills. Get yourself on a serious personal growth path because all the dreams, desires, and wants you have will never come true unless you become the person that it will take to see those dreams come true.
-The Professional Encourager and Uplifter