“People are born originals but most die copies,” John Mason from his famous book “An Enemy Called Average.” We are custom made by our creator exactly the way that we are for a specific reason however we spend so much of our life trying to fit in, trying to be like others, trying to do what others do. This ends in us losing ourselves. We completely lose who we are as an individual. One of the most important revelations I have had in my life was when I realized I was individual to my Creator. When I understood that God made me exactly the way that I am for a specific reason. At that time in my life, I was trying to be a people pleaser. I was trying to do, be, and act like other people instead of being my organic self. I was doing what I saw the world around me doing, going to work, leaving at 5, living for the weekend. We all have a unique personality that is different to every other individual on earth but because of our deep desire to be accepted and to fit in we for much of our life haven’t let that real personality out. We have desires, dreams, and visions that no one else has but because the world tells us to play it safe we end up never chasing that organic dream and instead settle for much less.
John Maxwell says that in order to find our purpose we first have to find ourselves and then lose ourselves in that purpose. Unfortunately many of us never get to the point where we find ourselves because we don’t understand that we are custom made. We are always trying to do, be, and act like the world around us. We have been brainwashed into believing that we have to live our life a certain way at a young age, causing us to stop dreaming. I was fortunate enough to have parents that taught me to dream. They didn’t always agree with everything I have done to chase my dreams but instilling that in me as a kid has played a huge part in why I am where I am at today. I went through years of my life trying to fit in. Looking at the people around me and then choosing to dress, act and do what they did. What happened is I completely lost who I was. I was so completely lost that I was depressed pretty much every day of my life for almost a year. I didn’t really know I was custom made and I definitely hadn’t found myself yet. What I want to tell you is that if you seek to find yourself hard enough you will find yourself.
This is a tough process because we know we have this person on the inside of us that we are afraid to let out because we have never brought this person to the world and we fear what people will think. We fear that people will think we have gone crazy but in reality we are discovering ourselves. Instead of seeking acceptance from others we begin to seek acceptance from ourselves. We start to understand that we are custom made and it feels amazing to be us. I want you desperately to begin this process because I know how freeing it has been for me. Sure some friends aren’t accepting of what I am doing but am I going to live the rest of my life to please them? If thats how they feel they weren’t my real friends in the first place. You need to know and understand that you are individual and unique to your creator. That you are custom made for a specific reason and purpose and once you start to figure that out you begin to live with a sense of freedom that you can be you and do you everyday of your life. As I always say, I am the professional encourager and uplifter, this is who I am and what I do everyday of my life, whether you like it or not!
-The Professional Encourager and Uplifter