I want you to live life on your terms. I want you to make the decisions in your life. Most people in the world are just waiting for somebody or something to tell them what to do. Its true. Most of us just go with the tide of the world. We just swim downstream and do what we see most people do. I remember when I dropped out of college, people made fun of me, most everyone said I would never get a good paying job, most everyone said it was the worst mistake of my life, most everyone just couldn’t believe I was ruining my life! It was amazing, you know why? Because we all have this idea that we all are supposed to fit into this bubble and when someone decides to get radical with their life people don’t know what to do. We think we can’t chase our dream because we have to have a good paying job, a 401k, and three weeks of paid time off. We think we need to play it safe and just do what we see people around us do. Here is the problem with that, I guarantee we will get to the end of our life regretting a whole lot of our life. We will try and fool ourselves by saying “ahh I don’t regret anything,” but deep down, even though we wont admit it, we know we regret the majority of our life because instead of living it on our terms we lived it doing what the world told us to do.
There are things right now in your life that you are not doing, pursuing, going after because the world has convinced you that you have to do something a certain way. You need to fit into this bubble of the way we are all supposed to live our lives. We all admire the people we watch in movies like Rudy Ruettiger who at age 26, dropped everything after his best friend died to finally chase his dream of playing football at Notre Dame. Its giving me the goosebumps right now just thinking about his story. He was 5’6” tall and weighed 150lbs. He had horrible grades in high school. He had every reason not to do it. Everyone told him not too. Everyone said just settle down with your girlfriend keep working your day job, get a house, start a family, and instead Rudy decided to live life on his terms, chase his dream and ultimately fulfill it. We all admire people like that but most of us don’t apply it in our own lives. Why? Because for some reason we just do what the world says instead of what our heart says. We ignore our heart and listen to our head. We do what we think we “have” to or the “smart” thing to do instead of doing what our heart is telling us to do.
We for some reason want to play life safe instead of take a risk or a chance. If you want a boring life that you end up regretting, then go ahead and continue to not take chances and risks. We for some reason think that if we decide to go after what we want, take a risk, our life might end! Its fear. I was waiting to chase my dream of being a motivational speaker, author, coach, because of fear. I didn’t even know it until someone I respected told me straight up, “Sam your not chasing your dream because of one word, fear.” I thought I was just being smart, waiting till “better timing” but what I learned was waiting for better timing was just me being full of fear. We for some reason try to rationalize not living life on our terms but when we really think about it, it makes no sense at all. Its our one life and we are never going to get it back. There is never going to be another you. There has never been another you and there never will be so to live life on society’s terms, our parents terms, our boss’s terms, is just plain stupid and makes no sense.
Someone said to me recently “Sam I admire the fact that despite what people say or think you choose to live life on your terms.” I was thinking in my head “wow there is so much you don’t know, and so much more of my life I need to be living on my terms,” but what I realized was when we decide to live life our terms we inspire others to do the same. When we make unpopular decisions that maybe people don’t understand, and we follow through, even though people may make fun of us, may give us a hard time, in the inside we inspire them. They truly want to be like us. What I have learned is that if I want to inspire others, I need to do things that are inspirational. I need to do things other people want to do but are too scared, and to be someone others want to be but are too scared to become because that is what will truly inspire them to live life on their terms.
-The Professional Encourager and Uplifter